Yelling at the angry cyclist didn’t help

The cyclist was screaming at an elderly driver who couldnโ€™t edge past a lorry.

Sharp ditch on one side, high curb on the other. A treacherous predicament.

Stuck two cars back and watching the angry cyclist upset me. A lot. Being screamed at for no good reason was something I knew well.

The poor pensioner. First the fear of sliding into the ditch, then the abuse for driving cautiously. Broad shoulders and meaty ears made the cyclist physically intimidating.

Feeling a strong urge to protect the elderly driver, I found myself acting before I could think rationally about the situation.

โ€œDonโ€™t be rude, you idiot!โ€ I yelled out the window in passing. Not waiting around for a response.

Ironic words given the method of delivery.

I drove on not feeling any better as I would have hoped. I felt stirred up by what I had seen, then pretty terrible by my reaction. My hands were cold and sweaty.

Did I act inappropriately? Should I have turned a blind eye? Should I have blocked the road? I donโ€™t know.

I kept looking in the rearview mirror, half expecting the cyclist to chase me down at 40 miles per hour.

I donโ€™t know what I should have done. But I feel uncomfortable with how I instinctively reacted.

I want the comfort of my dad telling me itโ€™s okay, I want the opportunity to apologise to the cyclist for being rude, and I want to know my aggressive outburst doesnโ€™t make me a bad person.

Itโ€™s all very confusing.

What I want the most, however, is not witnessing such acts of aggression. And not responding in kind.